We all know that sex sells. But when it comes to writing, it can be difficult to pull off a sex scene. In certain genres (like general fiction and memoir), a writer takes a big risk by exposing nitty-gritty details. An analogy explains why:

• A badly written scene is NOT the guy who lights up the party. But at least nobody pays attention to him.
• A badly written sex scene is the guy who does too many shots, gets up on the table to dance, hurls on his shoes, and then drunk-dials every ex-girlfriend in his phone before passing out in the bathroom.

In other words, when a love scene goes wrong, it goes really wrong. Sex scenes, especially bad ones, stand out.